I Cannot Hear You!
How to improve your communication skills and thus your relationship with others.
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I cannot hear you! Have you ever had conversations like that?
Hi, I’m Pascale Gibon and welcome to episode 263 of the Everyday Life Balance Show.
You might be wondering what the title of this episode is all about. The title comes from an observation I made recently, which is worth talking about because it affects how we communicate with others.
I don’t know about you, but have you noticed how some conversations between colleagues, loved ones, and friends end up going round and round in a circle? He says this. She says that. However, they do not seem to meet halfway.
I was the observer of such a conversation recently between two people. I noticed, as an observer, that the individuals who were putting their point across were saying the same thing.
It appears, though, that they could not hear it for the following reason:
They could not come to an agreement or hear what the other person was saying because they were using different words or expressing what they wanted to say in two different ways. I hope you follow so far. It was funny to watch. Since I was following their communication, I had to tell them that they were saying the same thing but differently, and the outcome was the same.
I draw the following conclusion from this experience. In general, people need to increase their listening abilities during their conversations with others, particularly when they struggle to reach an agreement.
If I had not clarified the situation, these two people would still be arguing, saying the same thing but differently.
Has it ever happened to you?
Another conclusion is that communication breaks down when it is a one-way street. What do I mean? Have you had conversations when the other party tries hard to get their point across without giving much attention to what you want to say? They want to make their point clear first then they will open up to what you have to say. In other words, they will not listen to you until you get their point first.
This type of conversation can go two ways: no one listens or no one wants to give way. As a result, the conversation turns into a misunderstanding instead of active listening and dialogue.
I have found that the best solution is to listen attentively and actively to what the other person has to say before you put your point across.
A lot of misunderstanding is due to a lack of active listening abilities, communication abilities, and the desire to be first understood before you understand. In his celebrated book "The Habits of Highly Effective People," Stephen Covey said: “Seek first to understand then to be understood.”
Communication comes from the verb ‘communicare,’ which means to share. Therefore, should you be willing to improve your communication skills and thus your relationship with your partner, colleague or friend seek first to understand and then to be understood to transform, as a whole, your attitude and perception of the relationship.
I hope you enjoyed this episode.
As always remember, now is your time to transform your life one step at a time.
I look forward to connecting with you next Monday.
Have a fantastic week, take good care and lots of love.
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