Discover One Foundational Principle To Transform All of Your Relationships Fast
How to have better relationships in times of conflict
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FULL TRANSCRIPT
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Hi, I'm Pascale Gibon. Thank you for listening to episode 206 of The Everyday Life Balance Show.
Maintaining healthy relationships is challenging because of the diversity of characters and predominant egos.
The existence of various characters means divergent ways of viewing life. And we base the way we view life on the way we individually experience the world.
Two beliefs determine the way we respond to our life experience:
- Life is happening for you
- Life is happening to you.
You harness your limitless power when you believe life is happening for you.
On the opposite side, when you believe that life is happening to you, you are convinced that you cannot create better circumstances.
Our close relationships can become messy because we are at ease with the people we love. In other words, we might hurt the people closest to us.
Yet you can apply one foundational principle now to transform all of your relationships, which I will reveal to you in a minute. Fasten your seat belt because this requires a lot of wisdom.
Ego, E.G.O means Edging God Out. I borrowed this definition from Wayne Dyer. With this definition in mind, whenever we allow the E.G.O to control our lives, we distance ourselves from our true divine nature, which is love.
How does the ego dominate in relationships? Here are some examples:
- We insist that we are right and the other person is wrong
- We expect others to behave in a certain way
- We refuse to listen
- We get jealous
- We compare ourselves to others and suffer from an inferiority complex
- We blame others
- We remain resentful for the rest of our life
- And most importantly, we take love instead of giving love.
I am sure you can hear how we edge God out with some of the characteristics of the ego I have just described.
I want to introduce you to a different perspective based on love and aligned with our true nature.
Judgment characterizes the ego. "I am stronger than you, I know more than you, I am better than you, this is mine etc."
The dominance of the ego is centred on separation. Wisdom, on the other hand, consists of using our experience to make others happy.
One true story we often hear of is that of a father and son becoming estranged, for example. They lost contact for years because the son did not feel loved by his father. Then after his father passing, the son realizes that his father loved him very much and held him dear in his heart. It appears that what the father struggled with the most was showing love.
When we view the E.G.O as edging God out, anything that is ego-based is out of alignment with the truth. Therefore, we need to be increasingly aware of when our behaviour is ego-based.
When the ego dominates, this is feedback. Domination of the ego gets in the way of healthy and harmonious relationships and reveals a misalignment with our true nature. We are aligned with something when we resonate or associate with it.
In times of conflictual relationships, there is one life-changing principle that can help you develop better relationships. This principle is extracted from Stephen Covey's book: the 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People.
The principle Steven Covey shares regarding relationship is: “Seek first to understand then to be understood.”
Let me ask you a question:
In times of conflict with another individual, may it be your spouse, child, parent, sibling etc. do you meet them where they are? In other words, do you seek to understand where they stand in their thinking?
In the case of conflict, when you seek to understand the other's viewpoint, an energy shift can rapidly happen around the relationship. The reason is simple you view the other person from a place of love and not as the enemy. There is no separation; from the moment you change your vibration from hostility or judgment to unity, understanding, compassion and love, the relationship becomes more harmonious.
When you apply Stephen Covey’s principle, you become more compassionate, understanding and loving. Besides, the individual you battle with is your best teacher. They allow you to see in yourself something you could not see.
I hope you enjoyed this episode. As always, remember now is your time to transform your life one step at a time.
Here is one action you could take today to accelerate your success:
- Do you have someone in your life you are close to you misunderstood or failed to understand first? And this has caused a rift between you?
- If you can identify that person, work now on understanding them first by meeting them where they are. When you do so, you will start to understand why they acted the way they did, and they will open up to you.
I look forward to connecting with you next Monday.
Take care, have a fantastic week and lots of love.
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